Maitri is an attitude of unconditional friendliness toward oneself. It is the basis of compassion and the necessary attitude that must be cultivated as a part of any personal growth. Without this capacity, it is impossible to look deeply inward and the psychological defense mechanisms that protect your ego identity keep you stuck.
In this video, Pema Chodron elaborates on the quality of Maitri as a starting point for deeper inquiry. As a personal development coach, I have found this to be the key to becoming unstuck. As Krishnamurti said, “seeing the truth deeply is what liberates.” However, you can’t see the truth at all if you have a harsh inner critic and well-defended ego structure.